You all know that I love the Christmas Season, but for a growing number of people, this time of year produces the exact opposite response: sadness, sense of loss, depression, etc. The more festivities they see, the less they want to be around people or the celebration.
For some, it may be because of the stress associated with family gatherings when relatives converge and the “comments” start. Some of you know what I’m talking about, right? Questions like “What are you doing with your life?” or “Why aren’t you more like ___________?” or a slew of other questions along those same lines. The best one is “When are you going to get married?” The answer to that silly question: When I find a guy with whom I can live the rest of my life in peace and happiness.
As much as this time of the year may pack joy and celebration, there’s also a dark side to this season and one that I’m learning to respect. Perhaps the sadness stems from the fact that a loved one passed away around this time of year. Or perhaps people are no longer able to celebrate with loved ones because of deaths or estrangements. While others are making merry with friends and family, they just don’t have friends or family to celebrate with them on those “special” days nor do they wish to “intrude” on someone else’s gathering. Such is the case with a good unni of mine whose parents are no longer alive and who is estranged from her only sibling.
Whatever the reason, I’m learning with each year that passes to be a bit more sensitive to those around me who may not be as enthusiastic about this time of month. If you are one of those who like to simply pass the month of December quietly and without much fanfare, I wish you a relaxing and warm month…and a great-big-warm-virtual hug from me (and the bear above) to you!
As small as this may be, I hope all of you find warmth and peace in our little community here. May it always be a happy place for Kdrama lovers! 🙂